Hey Soccer!


from: Andrew Pridgen
to: Soccer
date: Wed, May 21, 2014 at 10:41 AM
subject: hey!

hey hey,

just a quick ‘hello’ and wow, know you’re heading to Rio next week. RIO! I’ve always wanted to go there—especially (guilty pleasure alert!) since the Romeo and Juliet …the one with Leo and Claire Danes and Paul Rudd. Though nobody really remembers him in that I think because that’s post-Clueless but before Paul Rudd was Paul Rudd Paul Rudd.

Anyway, I know it’s been a long time (almost four years!) but looks like things are going good for you and that makes me happy.

Nothing much new on this end: Work’s been super-busy, though we don’t get really busy till the fall. Other than that, I kind of got interested in Swayze again after I read the other day that his wife Lisa whatever-it-was (Nemo? Niemi?) got re-married. I’m glad for her and I feel like it’s stupid that she hasn’t been on Dancing with the Stars yet.

Anyway, I started kind of going through the Swayze catalog. A good part of it is streaming on Netflix—like Black Dog (which also has Meatloaf, which is a pretty big bonus, almost as big as a Busey bonus). Then there’s Father Hood. I feel like this movie was kind of overlooked. It’s got Halle Berry, during the front end of the David Justice era, so she didn’t really have her groaning/crying chops yet. Interestingly enough, Darrell Roodt directed it. He’s a South African director who’s made some pretty serious fins (Cry, the Beloved Country, Little One, Prey …all mostly dealing with his country’s struggle with apartheid)—anyway, there’s a heft to Father Hood that I don’t think many people give Swayze the credit for bringing.

So, yeah—on your travels, be mindful of maybe watching a few of those.

’bout it—I know time is tight so no worries on writing back… just know that I’m thinking of you this time of year and sorry (again) that it’s been awhile. I’ll try to not have it be so long in the future.


from: Soccer
to: Andrew Pridgen
date: Wed, May 21, 2014 at 10:50 AM
subject: Re: hey!

Hi Andrew,

It’s good to hear from you. Glad life is going pretty well for u.

Yes, busy getting ready for World Cup. There’s a lot to do. Brazil is great. They’ve been great the whole time. It’s a lot leading up.

Sorry if this is short. Been mostly out in the field (in all senses of the word). I hope u understand. Next time, maybe communicate more in the down months (years!!)


from: Andrew Pridgen
to: Soccer
date: Wed, May 21, 2014 at 11:59 AM
subject: Re: Re: hey!


Sorry for not talking more during the off-season/off-time.

If it’s any consolation, I’ve started to fold the word “nil” and the expression “having a friendly” back in conversation in preparation for next week’s “kick off”.

Do you say “kick off” when the WC (World Cup!!) starts, or is that an American fout-ball (or however you spell it) thing?

Either way, so PSYCHED (all-caps!) for you and, again, will be watching!


ps — please tell Brazilians more bikinis/less vuvuzelas this year!!!

from: Soccer
to: Andrew Pridgen
date: Fri, May 23, 2014 at 8:50 AM
subject: Re: Re: Re: hey!

We can’t really control what the crowd does with its noise-makers.

And asking me to ask women to wear bikinis is just sexist and a little strange.


ps Baz Lurhmann’s Romeo and Juliet was filmed in Mexico City, not Rio. Also it’s f-o-o-t-b-a-l-l, just like how you spell it.

from: Andrew Pridgen
to: Soccer
date: Thurs, May 29, 2014 at 9:13 AM
subject: Re: Re: Re: Re: hey!

Oh man,

I’m sorry if I pissed you off. I was just trying to make conversation. And, you know, there’ve been so many slideshows about the “footballer’s” 🙂 wives so, just trying to say hi, you know.

Thanks for the info on Romeo and Juliet. I went back and looked it up and you’re right, it was in the Del Valle neighborhood of Mexico City. I’d love to go there. It’d probably be fun to be there for the World Cup it’s like a national holiday there for it.

Also, I feel bad because I think there’s poor kids there who ride on top of subways either because they’re too poor to afford it (then again, if they can get past the turnstiles then logic would say that they can actually get into the subway car) or they just do it for the thrill, like Teen Wolf.

Anyway, any of those countries down there with the warm beaches and where they cut coconuts open with a big machete on the street and you drink the juice with a rum chaser, well—that sounds like a place where I want to be.

Also, saw that Pete Postlethwaite (Father Laurence in Romeo and Juliet and he’s in just about everything else) died like three years ago!!! Crazy. I feel like Inception was just released like last summer. I guess I must be getting old because time sure is flying.

Maybe that’s why it’s been so long since we’ve written!


from: Soccer
to: Andrew Pridgen
date: Fri, May 30, 2014 at 6:10 AM
subject: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: hey!

You totally lost me on the coconut deal, my guess is you got drunk last night and watched either Cocktail or one of those Travel Channel shows and you started mumbling about how you should go there.

Look. I’ll be pretty blunt. I’m getting a lot of attention from a lot of people right now and, well, I can’t really GIVE a lot of attention back to someone I hear from twice a decade.

So please, don’t pretend to know me and don’t pretend we’re friends. I appreciate(d) our time together in 2010, but then you fell off the face of the earth.

Sorry, I know this probably isn’t what you wanted to hear on the eve of the World Cup.


from: Andrew Pridgen
to: Soccer
date: Sat, May 31, 2014 at 11:28 PM
subject: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: hey!


I’ve read this now like a bunch of times and I kind of want to hit ‘reset’ on this conversation.

To be clear, I feel like I just wanted to ‘say hi’ and check in and make sure everything’s OK. I mean, you might not see this because now I know you have like a million followers or whatever, but I am ALWAYS keeping track of what you’re doing (and not in a stalkerish way, OK!) But, yeah, it’s just it’s natural to really want to know how things are going this time of year (rather, this time of every four years.)

I’m not going to drop names or pretend I have a favorite dark horse (Uruguay) but, I do feel like—like you mentioned in your last email—that we did do time together and we did enjoy each other’s company and even though I’m not looking for something more or something I don’t deserve, I just want to let you know I’m thinking of you and I’ll be watching this year.

I know that’s small consolation and, honestly, if we’re getting down to brass tacks and this is really about how I basically fell off the face of the Earth after last World Cup, well, I’m sorry.

You know I live in the states (yes, I’m calling it “the states”) and you know how hard it is to get soccer here. I was really super into you, believe that. But, I don’t know—I guess I just got caught up in other, more accessible stuff. It happens.

I don’t want this to turn into a big thing. Again, this is just a simple, “hey, how are you!” conversation.

But again, if I wasn’t clear. I really really (really 🙂 hope we can meet up over the next few weeks and see, you know, if there’s something there.


from: Soccer
to: Andrew Pridgen
date: Sun, June 1, 2014 at 10:37 AM
subject: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: hey!

I really don’t know what to say here.

I thought about not writing you back but it sounds like you’re going through some stuff right now. Otherwise, I can’t think of a reason why you’d be writing me like that.

Attached is a spreadsheet with some links of some hotlines/help organizations in your area if you’re feeling depressed or if you’re drinking too much.

At this point, I’d rather you not watch World Cup.



from: Andrew Pridgen
to: Soccer
date: Sun, June 1, 2014 at 8:30 PM
subject: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: hey!



I mean, you totally are getting the wrong idea here.

I think you maybe misread, or maybe I came on too strong. I’m not looking for a RELATIONSHIP! If you must know, well, I won’t get into it. But know I’m good on that front ok.

Like I said earlier, things are really good for me. Work is good. Everything is good. I don’t really know where we got sideways here.

I went back and re-read my emails and I think it started to get a little weird when I mentioned Pete Postlethwaite and how long it’s really been and I “get” that that’s going to stir some emotions. But that’s water under the bridge, right? I mean, he’s just an actor.

Anyway, so, yeah. Let me just say—for once and for all—I hope you’re good and I hope you didn’t mean it by me not watching. I mean, I like to watch (that sounds bad, but you get what I’m saying).



from: Andrew Pridgen
to: Soccer
date: Wed, June 4, 2014 at 2:47 AM
subject: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: hey!


It’s been a couple days and I haven’t heard from you.

Are you OK?

I called a few people to check up on you. They told me to leave you alone (I forwarded some of our emails, sorry!)

It’s just. I did a lot of reading about Rio the past couple days and it sounds like a super-scary place. Like I’m not sure I’m comfortable with you being down there by yourself, all alone. I mean I know you’re an adult and you’re not technically “alone”—there are going to be close to 20 million others, but what they did to clear room for the stadium and the event, basically impoverishing half the city and putting their thumb on the lower classes by running drugs through the arteries of their streets is just inhumane and awful.

Anyway, I’m not insinuating you’d do something like that. You’re you and they’re them. It’s just, I’m concerned.

Please write me back (as a friend) and let me know you’re OK.

I’m thinking of coming down there to check up on you! If I don’t hear from you, I might buy a ticket later today.


from: Andrew Pridgen
to: Soccer
date: Wed, June 4, 2014 at 10:23 AM
subject: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: hey!

hey again,

So I’m looking at tickets to come down there. I think I found one that’s pretty reasonable (like $2,800 round trip). Let me know if I should pull the trigger.

Also, I’m looking at airbnb and EVERYTHING is sold out. You don’t happen to have an extra spot on the couch (I’m not going to make any kind of move, promise—it’ll just be for a night to sleep off jet lag. I have a few other friends going too) for me to crash!

SO EXCITED! See you in a few days!!


from: Andrew Pridgen
to: Soccer
date: Thurs, June 5, 2014 at 7:31 AM
subject: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: hey!


So I got that overnight letter in the mail from your lawyers (you have a lot of lawyers).

I guess I’ll be changing my plans and not be coming down and I didn’t know they would have me flagged at the airport like that, but that’s interesting.

Either way, again, just a quick ‘hello’ and hope things go well these next couple weeks in Rio.

Your friend (that’s all!)